Our Seventh Year-Communication

Think of your favorite ice cream flavor, the one you liked when you were young and it was your most favorite to get, or maybe the one that you don't pick because you are worried about the calories. The best flavor, the one that you just dream about, but maybe you just don't get very often. Think of how good it tastes, how it just makes you so happy inside because of how glorious it tastes.

Ice Cream has many amazing qualities-Homemade Ice Cream for example, takes work and time to make it perfect. You can't "hurry" the process for Homemade Ice Cream. You have to be patient, and aware of what's going on in order to have the tastiness of the Ice Cream, but it's always so worth the wait. Another type of Ice Cream, is the cheap ice cream, the kind that you don't really want to buy, except for the price is just too good to pass up. You know what happens to that Ice Cream, it gets pushed to the back of the freezer, and you find it several months later covered in ice crystals, and it ends up in the garbage because it just isn't good anymore.

When you find the "perfect" ice cream flavor for you, it's like a match has been made, and you want to tell everyone you know how wonderful it is and they need to try it as well.

Communication is much like that ice cream. Communication like homemade ice cream is a process, one that can not be rushed, it needs time and patience to have good open communication in a marriage. And like that nasty frozen ice cream that get's thrown away, communication can become like that as well, if communication isn't used and nurtured in a relationship.

Communication is important in any relationship, verbal, non-verbal, written, open, closed. We hear all of these different forms of communication. The first way Bret and I talked was through written conversation, this has it’s positives and negatives. But, it’s also the way we talk all day at work as well. I love to communicate, I love to talk, hey , It’s one of the things I excel at.

In Ten Years of marriage, we have learned how important communication is to our relationship. I love to talk things out, where Bret will stew on something, and not want to share. We have had many conversations about this, and it has gotten progressively better over time.

But, our communication with one another is so very important, because it allows us to learn and grow, and to be aware of one another’s needs, and wants. Our communication styles may be different, and varied, but they work for us.

We communicate through trials, as we go through bad days together, and then we communicate through celebrations and those are a priority in our house. I’m always looking for a reason to have a party.

As I was thinking about communication, and trials and blessings, we solve both in a similar way. It has been a long standing theme in our home, any time something bad has happened, we get ice-cream, but also when we need to celebrate, we get ice cream. Sometimes, this has meant taking walks to McDonalds to get sundaes, or consoling tears in Rosemary’s ice-cream. Overall, it seems to either dull the pain, or put a spark in a celebration.

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In a spirit of remembering communication in our marriage… Dewars’s it is. For a Celebration